Photo by Rachel Claire on Pexels.com

Hello, folks.

This week’s post will be less of an optimistic one than usual, but I wanted to write about this to spread awareness about the instances that many people don’t see (nor really talk about) when it comes to travel. While travel comes with plenty of joyous and memorable experiences, there’s also a dark side to it that often gets swept under the rug.

One of these instances is about how women get treated while traveling, especially solo. I am a woman in my late twenties, and after almost eight years of traveling myself, I can tell you that I’ve come across instances of aggression from men, both physically and verbally. And while I do not liken the behavior of these few unsavory folks to reflect the entirety of men, these moments have made me very distrustful of them, to the point that if I get approached (and innocuously so), I am immediately on guard.

I have spoken to other solo female travelers, and I haven’t met one who didn’t have at least one negative encounter while on the road. It’s unfortunate that, while gender equality has improved over the years, there are still these loathsome people in the world who make it their job to put the so-called “weaker sex” down. But I will say that, through these experiences, I’ve learned to be hyper-aware of my surroundings and look for an escape plan whenever I travel. It’s a huge lesson to be learned, and it has helped make my subsequent trips safer.

Here are some recounts I’ve experienced traveling solo as a woman. These stories might be a bit disturbing to some, so proceed with caution. Hopefully as we bring more recognition to this dark side of travel, we can improve the safety and health of women who want to go out and explore the world.

Feeling Unsafe as a Solo Female Traveler (My Experience)

1. Istanbul, Turkey (June 2019)

After a whirlwind week of traveling all over Turkey, I made it back to Istanbul for an additional three nights in town. I was actually traveling with my friend “M,” but unfortunately, she fell sick on the second day, so I ended up exploring Istanbul by myself. I decided to head over to Taksim Square to explore the other side of the city, so I took the tram over.

About two stops before getting off, I got up from my seat to prepare to soon disembark when I made the most-fleeting eye contact with a Turkish man, who was sitting near the door. I am talking a millisecond long, yet despite myself looking away, I noticed in the corner of my eye he was still staring, and I had a bad feeling about this. I prayed that he did not get off at the same stop as I did…

…and he did. Shit. Next thing I did was pull out my phone and pretended to text someone while staying rooted on the tram platform, all at once keeping the man within my peripheries. The man stood across the platform, waiting for me to start walking so that he could follow. Yet, I remained still, continuing to fake text on my phone. This standstill lasted maybe 10 seconds, but it felt so long, and I was scared what would happen if he were to approach closer…

After those few seconds, he apparently took the hint and walked away. I booked it soon after that, speed-walking to my destination and glancing behind my shoulder a couple of times to make sure he didn’t follow back. Although it was a brief encounter, it shook me up a little, but fortunately, I didn’t have any other instances like that during the rest of my time in Istanbul.

2. Caen, France (February 2016)

I actually did not travel solo on this trip; I was with my female friend “N,” but the verbal assaults were targeted towards me. It was about 20h00 and already dark when we arrived at the Caen train station: it was our meeting point for our BlaBlaCar driver, who would be taking us to Le Mont St-Michel. We were walking right outside the station entrance when we passed a group of three men who were loitering there, and they saw us and began following us.

“Hey, la chinoise (Chinese girl), hey, hey. Speak to us. Hello, do you hear us? Hey, hey…” the men catcalled. I am Asian, and my friend “N” is white, so they were only targeting me. They were only a few footsteps behind us, and they followed us for at least 50 metres before they left us alone. Those 50 metres, short as it was, felt like an eternity. Each step I was terrified for my life, wondering if these men were going to jump us. Thankfully, they didn’t, but the whole ordeal left me shaken up– even “N’s” attempts to comfort me afterwards couldn’t completely assuage me.

Not only were the men’s words an assault on my womanhood, but also on my race. It makes me absolutely angry that someone would attack both the so-called “weaker sex” and the “weaker race.” I would have similar experiences on racism on my travels later on, but that’s for another post.

3. Romania (February 2019)

After a day spent in the city of Sibiu, I hopped on the late afternoon train back to Brașov. It would be a two-and-a-half hour ride back, so I chose a window seat (there weren’t assigned seats) to get comfortable in. Passengers came and went throughout the ride, from schoolchildren to workers getting on and off after a long day at school or work.

It was about two-thirds of the way into the ride that an older, rather-disheveled man embarked the train with his grocery caddy and sat across the aisle from where I was seated. At first, I didn’t think much about it, but then as passengers alighted from the train and we were one of the few left, I started to get uneasy.

The man glanced at me several times, and then he moved to sit RIGHT. NEXT. TO. ME. Mind you, I was at the window seat, so I was literally trapped. He didn’t do anything, except make a few more glances at me, and I was seriously afraid for my life. I immediately got up and booked it to another compartment, as far away from him as possible, to find another seat and otherwise hide from this stranger. I still had about 45 minutes before I reached my stop, and it couldn’t hurry soon enough.

By moving to another compartment and seat, I also hoped that the man thought I’d already disembark and would leave me alone. But NOPE. A few minutes after I sat in another compartment, the man made his way over and found me! Again, he sat across from me, pretending to be nonchalant, but he was scaring the hell out of me. Once again, I headed to another compartment in order to find another seat, and to pretend that I’d already gotten off the train. Thankfully after that, I didn’t see him anymore.

I had no idea what this man’s intentions were for sitting near/next to me, let alone follow me, throughout the train. I’m very glad he didn’t do anything to me, but still, it was a bizarre and frightening experience. He seemed to be the homeless/drunkard type, so maybe he wasn’t mentally there and decided to target me as a foreigner. Being alone with him on basically an empty train was scary, but I was fortunate that there wasn’t assigned seating and that I could move around whenever I got uncomfortable. Seriously, it was such a stressful situation to be in…

4. Marrakesh, Morocco (May 2017)

I wrote about this in this post, so I’ll spare you the details here. Long story short, I got lost wandering the medina and foolishly decided to trust a young, Moroccan man who couldn’t speak much English (or French) to guide me back to the main square. He physically assaulted me in a quiet courtyard, stole my bag and phone, and took off.

By some miracle, I managed to chase him down (with the help of a community!), get my stuff back, and get him arrested. It was first and only time riding in a police van to the police station to file a report, and it was absolutely satisfying to see the thief puke his guts out in fear and ultimately spend the night in jail. Revenge was way too sweet…

This incident was the craziest I’ve ever encountered in all of my travels, and to this day I still can’t believe it actually happened, let alone how well it turned out in the end. I wouldn’t choose to repeat it, by any means, but since getting mugged, I’ve definitely learned to trust my instincts even more and avoid getting myself into situations like that.

5. Krakow, Poland (April 2017)

Poland is one of my favorite countries I’ve visited in Europe, and I actually felt super safe visiting the places I went to. However, I did have one incident that, while not necessarily threatening, made me uncomfortable. It was in Krakow, my last stop of my 10-day visit throughout the country: I spent five nights in town, and I wanted to try out a bar mleczny (milk bar) that are known to sell cheap, Polish food. I went out to one for lunch, got my food, and sat to enjoy it all.

While having my feast of a meal (I’d ordered a lot), an older, Polish man shuffles into the restaurant. He looked disheveled and homeless, and he was puttering around the restaurant, acting kind of strange. I was a bit confused to what he was doing, and was wondering if he was going to order anything at all…

The man approached me as I was having flaki (tripe soup), stood next to me, and said nothing. I was confounded and getting increasingly uncomfortable as he kept standing and staring. I continued to have my soup, pretending he wasn’t there. He then started mumbling something in Polish that I couldn’t understand, and he pointed to some pierogis on my plate, and said, “[incomprehensible words] pierogi [more incomprehensible words].” I think he wanted some of my food, but I wasn’t going to give him any, because 1) it was my meal, and I paid for it, and 2) he made me extremely uncomfortable.

Fortunately, he shuffled away, and I could enjoy the rest of my meal in peace. I actually felt kind of bad for him, because he looked homeless; I literally saw snot running down his nose when he was talking to me. Again, I wasn’t in danger, but I did feel very uneasy, as I was obviously targeted for being a young foreigner. I mean, he didn’t bother the burly Polish men having their meal a few tables away, nor did he harass the stoutly, middle-aged woman reading her newspaper at the table adjacent to me. I hope that he’s in a better place today, so that he could leave visitors like myself alone!

Have you encountered similar incidents as a solo female traveler? Let me know, if you’re comfortable. By bringing such stories to light, it raises awareness for female travelers out there, to know that we’ve all come across situations like these and aren’t alone in the discomfort and fear of being targeted for our gender. As travel continues reopening, it’s all the more important to look after ourselves whenever we’re out on the road.

Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful (and safe) day!

— Rebecca

Advertisement

57 thoughts on “Feeling Unsafe as a Solo Female Traveler (My Experience)

  1. Wow, so many unpleasant experiences, Rebecca! I am sorry you had to go through all that, but I have to agree with you – we have to be honest about all the ups and downs of travelling because it isn’t all rainbows and unicorns. Kids get sick, parents get sick, things get lost and in your situation, you were being harassed and unnecessary stress was created.

    From my personal experience, I have to say that travelling alone requires some special attention to safety. And, yes, no amount of prevention is a guarantee of safety. Things happen! I am glad that despite all the unpleasant situations you still carried on travelling with an open heart 🙂 Thanks for sharing your experience and have a good day 🙂 Aiva xx

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Exactly! Despite these unfortunate events, I do my best to continue forward and enjoy the good parts of travel. Although I will say that I’ll be much more hyper vigilant while on the road now! Thanks for stopping by, Aiva. 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

  2. It’s so sad to read that you have encountered these unpleasant experiences whilst travelling on your own Rebecca but I’m pleased that it hasn’t deterred you from travelling as that would be such a shame. I’ve travelled more on my own in recent years and always felt safe and secure so I must have been lucky.

    Liked by 3 people

    1. Feeling safe is certainly depended on where you go and your age/demographics. It’s not always given that you’ll be 100% safe in a specific place, but by being aware of yourself and your surroundings, you can increase your chances of being secured, all the while be able to enjoy yourself!

      Liked by 2 people

  3. It must have been so unpleasant! Especially when you’re trapped somewhere like the train or the restaurant. I can’t say I’ve ever been followed (not that I know of anyway) but am definitely way more on guard when solo travelling and also sometimes forgo activities (eg eat close to where I’m staying).

    Liked by 3 people

    1. Yes, being trapped makes the encounter all the scarier. Being followed not only made me uneasy, but also super annoyed (especially later on in my travels), because these people clearly have too much time on their hands to do this. Good thing you haven’t had it happen to you before, and here’s hoping it stays that way!

      Liked by 2 people

  4. Sigh, even in my own hometown of Kingston Jamaica I sometimes feel unsafe because of disgusting men who make it their duty to intimidate a solo female. In Jamaica, they’re brazen enough to ask you why are you not travelling with your boyfriend? As a way to try and find out if a male companion is nearby or not. But, we have to try and stay safe and not let these experiences cramp our style as travelers. Stay safe out there Rebecca! Incident #4 sent a chill down my spine.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. It sucks that we women have to deal with harassment often, even in our own city! But things are slowly changing, as more men become more accountable for their actions and learn that by treating women respectfully, they can *shocker!* win a girl’s heart. Definitely stay safe out there, Rochelle!

      Liked by 1 person

  5. That train story is the most scary, the fact that he followed you to another compartment would have really bothered me. I’ve only had the usual stares and jeers, but nothing that I was really concerned about. Maggie

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Yes, when it’s an invasion of your space and privacy, it becomes concerning. Thankfully, you haven’t experienced it so severely, and hopefully you never will!

      Like

    1. Indeed! We’re not alone in this problem! Even if you don’t have words of wisdom to impart, I appreciate your sympathy and understanding about it all. Hope you stay safe out there!

      Liked by 1 person

  6. Good for you for facing the difficulty in telling your problems. I have also experienced unsafe moments while travelling or even at home. Talking about it contributes to the education of more people, even if it is to wake up those who were not aware.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Exactly! Coming forward and telling our story (especially on a public platform like blogging) can reach so many people. Whether they have gone through the same experiences or have been the perpetrator (and understand how problematic their actions are), we can make traveling more of a safer venture in the years to come. At least, that’s ideal!

      Liked by 1 person

  7. I’m so sorry about your experiences, and thank you for sharing them. Your Morocco incident is particularly awful and I am SO glad you got your stuff back.

    I’ve actually never travelled solo, but mainly because I wouldn’t dare as I have had SO many awful experiences even with my husband right next to me. In Egypt, someone literally grabbed me in the middle of a busy street and touched me through my trousers; my husband had to pull him off. In Morocco, I was asked to ‘suck d*ck’, ‘be a white wh*re’ and ‘give my sexy breasts’ to people. Oh and in Atlanta a homeless man chased me up a road with a knife threatening to rape me. It’s incessant. And everywhere else it’s constant looks, cat calls, bum gropes in bars. Just today I walked to my car and someone commented on my legs. It’s disgusting and I get angry as hell society is still like this, pretty much everywhere really.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. It’s wild that, even now in the 21st century (after decades of fighting for women’s right to vote, wage equality, and our right to our body and health), we still have to deal with people disrespecting us due to our gender and/or sex. Even going about our daily errands can be inconvenient when someone harasses you, just because they really have nothing better to do in their sad lives. I’m sorry you’ve gone through all of this; the physical assaults were uncalled for. I wish law enforcement would step up to put these lowlifes in their place, but alas, that’s not how it goes in many countries…best way is to look out for ourselves and stay vigilant.

      Liked by 1 person

  8. It sounds like you’ve had more than your fair share of unpleasantness. Particularly the Marrakech story, which sounds really awful. You do have to have much more awareness as a female traveller, no doubt about it. Still, we are all exposed to such experiences and there’s a lot of luck involved I think. As a young man in Qatar, I had a horrible experience that I have never shared. Maybe one day I’ll follow your lead and tell the story, thanks for this thought provoking piece.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Yes, sometimes it’s about luck (or rather, lack thereof) whenever we encounter these unsavory situations. Women are more susceptible to such encounters (especially if you’re young and traveling solo), but men aren’t exempt from these unfortunate circumstances, either. Sorry to hear you had a traumatic experience; it’s up to you and your level of comfort to share it with us! Stay safe out there, Leighton!

      Liked by 1 person

  9. It’s really pathetic that you have had to put up with this crap while traveling. And good for you for chasing the creepy thief and getting him arrested. I traveled alone in the UK, but never had problems, possibly because I’m a senior citizen; but still, you shouldn’t have to deal with that. Thanks for sharing and stay safe.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Yes, it was a miracle that I got my stuff back! It’s fortunate that you haven’t been harassed on your travels, although I’ve heard that senior citizens get targeted, too, but usually for tourist scams. Always stay vigilant, and all the while have fun!

      Liked by 1 person

  10. Thank you for sharing your experiences. I’m sorry those things happened. This is a topic that people need to talk about more, not to scare others, but more as a heads-up for travelers, especially solo women travelers. My go-to expression when asked if I’m alone (when traveling) is “No, I’m meeting my friends here.” I hate to lie, but safety first! Thank you for writing this important post!

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Definitely good advice! I’ve also lied and say that I have a boyfriend when shady men approach me (even though I’m neither in a relationship nor attracted to men, haha), or have gone with male friends for safety. Some men are bold enough to challenge me (i.e. “Oh really? Where is he?”), but at that point, I hit them with my withering RBF, or “resting bitch face,” haha! Stay safe out there, Darlene!

      Liked by 1 person

  11. I’m sorry to hear you had these experiences. For the most part, my bad experiences have been less about travel and more that I’m “invading White spaces”. I haven’t been to Europe, so I can’t comment on that. Men were delightfully pleasant and respectful in the Maldives, Caribbean, and Mexico. Almost every bad experience I have had is right here in America or involves Americans overseas.

    Be safe!

    Liked by 2 people

    1. I don’t blame you for having unpleasant experiences with Americans: I admit, even I don’t like my own people sometimes! There is racism in Europe, but it operates differently, as it’s more covert and even more systemic in law and practice than the US. Europeans (at least the French) are also masters at being politically incorrect and microaggressions, but they aren’t self-aware of it. But it’s important just to do your thing and not let a few bad apples ruin your travels. Stay safe as well!

      Like

      1. I’m currently looking into going to Spain, so hopefully I don’t experience that. That would certainly put a damper on things, considering some of the reasons I want to leave the US!

        Liked by 1 person

  12. I am sorry to hear about these experiences Rebecca. You’re right, we should be more careful and vigilant, althemore in foreign places. D and I have our share of scary encounters, and we’re lucky to have gotten out of them unharmed. A thing that still comes to mind was when we were almost mugged – so that was a lesson learned for us and one thing we are extra conscious of in our travels to this day.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Being mugged (or almost mugged) is truly a frightening experience. It’s the fear of being helpless as you experience your valuables being taken from you in front of your eyes, whether with physical force or not. Definitely be safe out there!

      Liked by 1 person

  13. I’m sorry to hear you’ve had some bad experiences, particularly the mugging and being followed by those men who were catcalling you. I suppose it’s unlikely anyone could travel the world like you have done and not encounter at least some ugly behavior from people. I hope you never have to write a “part II” of this post. As for the Polish man who seemed to want your food, I wonder how he knew you were a foreigner. I wonder if he approached you because he’s had better luck getting food handouts from women than from (big burly) men… Just a thought.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. I’m pretty sure he knew that I was a foreigner, because, well, I am (and look) Asian, and there aren’t many Asian people who live in Poland. Maybe it was also because I was young and a woman, but my stubbornness made it clear to him that I wasn’t to be messed with (i.e. “no, you can’t have my food,” haha)! It’s down to luck, but you’re right that the more you travel, the higher the chance of encountering an unsavory situation. All the more important to remain alert and have an escape plan when anything happens!

      Liked by 1 person

    1. They are already a thing of the past. Not to say I’ll completely forget them, but I’m moving forward and continuing to travel (albeit exercising even more caution than before). Thanks for commenting!

      Like

  14. thanks for sharing Rebecca, not always easy to share stories like these, but i think it’s important for people to be aware that this is very real and happens. And it doesnt matter where you are, unfortunately women do get targeted in these sort of ways. stay safe and keep travelling too!

    Liked by 1 person

  15. Let me add a perspective here.

    I travel for business and a few years ago I was in Lagos Nigeria.

    The hotel said it was safe to walk down to the mall. I was the only white face in the street. I felt very vulnerable.

    I later found out that there was a risk I could have been taken hostage.

    That’s the downside of having value.

    If I fell down a ditch I would have been treated 10 times better than any local. People would have gone out of their way to treat me well because I have value as a white person and because they are good people.

    Could I condemn Nigerians for the fact that my relative value puts me at risk? Sure.

    But at the end of the day what puts me at risk is my value to a minority of bad people.

    I always think of that when I hear women, who are 10 times less likely to be victims of violent crime complain about how scared they are.

    Like

    1. Valid points. Thank you for sharing your perspective. However, I will disagree with you about how women “complain” about being scared, because it only takes one unfortunate experience (e.g. being followed, catcalled for how they’re dressed) to make them afraid to step out of the door. This isn’t us over-reacting; this is us on-guard for what could potentially happen to us, physically or mentally.

      I’d also like to ask where you got the stats for women being 10x less likely to be victims of violent crime (just for source purposes). And even if it were true, it’s not just violent crime: it’s the psychological trauma and exhaustion of having to deal with it constantly– during travel and during our everyday lives. Yes, the “bad people” are the minority, but again, it’s those few encounters with them that can be traumatic. That said, I don’t know if you meant to word it as women “complaining” about being scared, but it’s not complaining; it’s voicing our concerns for ourselves and our safety wherever we go in the world.

      Like

      1. Let me ask you this before I respond in detail…

        If I can prove to you that men are 10 times more likely to be victims of violent crime (it’s actually 11 times) what difference would it make?

        Like

  16. I remember reading the story of your Moroccan encounter, which gave me the idea of not to visit that country on my own. The train encounter in Romania worries me the most, especially that it was on an empty train. Travel safe!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Yes, very true. Although I will say that, even though my (female) friend joined me later on the Moroccan trip, we were still harassed. I don’t know if going with a male friend would make a difference, but that’s something to consider! Stay safe, too!

      Like

  17. I’m so sorry to read about all of these unpleasant experiences and it honestly makes me so mad (and sad) to read about it. Everyday sexism (and racism) is very much present and some people still thinks that women are paranoid: we are not, and it is precisely because of unpleasant encounters like these (or even worse) that we tend to mistrust everyone! I remember a guy friend once told me that, being very much aware of this thing that girls have to go through, he never approached a girl in the streets, even just to ask for directions, as he knew she would most likely feel unsafe… – very sweet from him but at the same time it is just awful that this is actually our reality… Thanks for sharing this!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you for commenting, Juliette. It’s true that even one or two bad experiences can make one distrust others in the long term. I can understand where your guy friend is coming from: I am aware that it’s only a minority of men who are terrible to women, but it’s this minority who gives the entire male population a bad rep. So it’s unfortunate that men have to be extra careful when approaching a woman in public, even if for innocuous reasons. I appreciate your thoughts!

      Like

  18. I’m really sorry to hear you’ve had to go through all these experiences, Rebecca. I’ve not travelled solo nor have I visited many countries, so I think I’ve maybe been lulled into a false sense of security. I appreciate you sharing these situations and helping to raise awareness. And I’m glad you’ve been able to handle each situation.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks, Diana! I don’t wish these unfortunate encounters upon anyone, and it’s important to have an escape plan in case something goes awry. Good thing you haven’t experienced anything egregious like this, and do stay safe!

      Liked by 1 person

  19. I could so relate to this post. As an older woman, I have experienced much less harassment as in my younger days traveling alone, but am still vigilant. Glad to see all of your stories had safe endings. I’ve jumped out of cars when hitchhiking in Europe (not so smart, but more common when I was young hippie-type), flagged a taxi to get off the street quickly, yelled and threw something once to call attention (he ran away). Although I like to explore alone, in some places I have engaged a guide to travel with a man comfortably for a short time.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Wow, you had some wild experiences! Hitchhiking isn’t for everyone, so it’s incredible you did that in your younger years. Also fortunate you’ve managed to get out of tense situations without much trauma (I hope). Continue to stay safe out there!

      Liked by 1 person

  20. Thank you for sharing your experiences Rebecca- The feeling of being a target must really be difficult and frightening. Your tenacity and courage as a solo woman traveler to distant and remote places is both admirable and courageous, and sharing your perceptions and “hints” and “tricks” to others to learn from is great and I applaud your effort 👍

    As a man who travels a lot and who frequently visit remote locations where I have to have the whits about me, the experience you describe might be somewhat relatable, even if not the same. I am a physical fit white male of 6’4” (193cm in my socks), but then again, it’s about the degree and type of risk that I get to take that must feel very unfair and unjust – I am very sorry you don’t get to have the freedom of traveling without the unwanted attention that is causing you fear.

    I wanted to reply to you because I wanted to share with you that I have a wife and step-daughter who both have experienced similar situations and I easily empathize with you. I also wanted to share that I have experienced on many occasions seeing and meeting woman that are clearly fearful when they see me. I do my best to avoid eye contact on those occasions and to pass with wide margins to mitigate their apparent nervousness. It must really suck, and I hope you and other women who might read this will take away some of my impressions that may be of help. One, is that it is so obvious that the women I notice are frightened, and if I notice, who is not a predator, then I am certain that those who are will zero in on those things even more. Second is that there are lots of “normal” people out there who say or do things that gets miss understood either due to cultural differences or because of the way we are all different.
    My tip and trick is to approach everyone and everything with respect – a microsecond of a glance is much worse than a second of staring – it shows confidence and a capable attitude when you can hold the eye contact.
    Naturally, it’s better to avoid eye contact completely, as I do when in areas where there may be people with mental issues or where I stick out like a sore thumb as a white tall “rich” man ready to rob.

    Speaking plainly and directly in a respectful but without much emotion has worked for me whenever I’ve been approached.

    Best of luck to you Rebecca, and I wish you safe travels wherever your travels take you.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you for sharing your perspective. It is unfortunate that men have to be extra careful when interacting with women due to a few bad apples. Wish it wasn’t the case, but for now, it’s about staying vigilant when traveling solo (at least, until women are respected more in society). Things are changing, so that’s reassuring. Like you, I default to a neutral, but cordial demeanor whenever I get approached, and even if others might perceive it to be cold, I believe it’s a good conduct to have– to stay a bit distant until you get to know someone and/or get the sense they can be trusted. Getting targeted can happen to anyone (even if you’re tall, white, and male, in your instance), so it’s important to be aware of your surroundings and to have a Plan B in case something were to go down. Continue to enjoy your travels, and stay safe!

      Liked by 1 person

  21. That is awful! I have only traveled solo in the States and haven’t had many problems. I usually drive, I have had instances where an area I stopped did not look safe so I have left. I Also had a experience when I was hiking to Havasu Falls where group of guys saw me hiking alone and started making me feel very uncomfortable by asking me questions about whether I was alone and where I was from, etc. I told them the rest of my group was behind me and would be coming around the corner. (I knew there was a group behind me and figured they’d be coming soon) thankfully they came around the corner about that time and the young men left me alone. I was 50 at the time but it was still nerve racking. I think by posting what you posted, it is a great service to anyone traveling alone. People must always have a safety plan whether they are alone or not. Incidentally, I do carry pepper spray, a whistle, and at that time I was an ER RN with lots of self defense training, regardless, I was a scared. I can’t imagine being in some of your predicaments. Being followed would totally freak me out! Take care and what a great post!! Lori

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Very smart move to refer to the tour group when the men were harrassing you: giving reasons, whether true or not, can get you out of those uncomfortable situations. I’m looking into investing in pepper spray, as well as brushing up on self-defense. Anything to stay safe than sorry! Continue to have safe travels, wherever you go!

      Liked by 1 person

  22. It’s great you shared this information as it is very important to bring any such information to light. We as a human go around, as the world evolved somewhat understanding the term equality, but ones in a while there is always someone who reminds us that world still has a long way to go for ‘equality’ to become a practice rather than a topic.

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s